The broom
vendor just walked down our street, with a heavy clutch of handmade brooms and
feather dusters flung over his shoulder. He calls out in a low gravelly voice: escooobas, plumeeeeeros. Street vendors are a
disappearing lot. Occasionally, I still hear the whistle of the knife
sharpener. I once stopped him with the idea of sharpening all the carving
knives and scissors in the house. He wanted a fortune! When he heard my accent,
he must have thought, Ah-ha, here’s a
wealthy foreigner. It’s been years since I've seen the bread man on his
tricycle or the milkman with his cart. I wonder if families have stopped buying fresh milk every morning.
Two days
ago was Thanksgiving. Not a holiday here and it means nothing to my Chilean
family. Maybe it’s my fault for not having installed a family tradition early
on, but it’s difficult when it’s a work and a school day, and summer is almost
upon us. No yellow and orange fall leaves, no roaring fireplaces, no nippy air.
I invited my son who lives here for
lunch, but he was having a busy week at work. I sent both boys email greetings.
The one in New York responded. Years ago, a group of American families would
get together for a picnic on the following weekend. But, as our families grew,
it became difficult to accommodate everyone. Thanksgiving is mainly just a
nostalgic memory for me now.
Traditions
are important, the mortar that holds a culture together and makes it unique.
But I’ve made my life in another land and must know when to let go. I can’t
revive my family Thanksgivings of the past. All those who sat around our table
when I was young are gone. The memories remain but they will not continue on
with my sons. I accept that fact.
Everything
in life is always evolving, changing. That’s the nature of it. That’s why I try
to pay attention – to the passing
broom man, the intense purple of the blooms on our jacaranda tree, the
voluminous billowing clouds over the cordillera, the expression on the face of
the young bride whose wedding we attended today. And each day I give thanks for it all.